JUST SOMETHING TO LOOK AT: She is all about image and appearances. However, anything remotely close to the inner deal is too much and can be painful. When she is around too long she becomes disconnected from her true self. At the same time, she provides an escape from over-thinking and over-feeling.

I CAN SAVE HIM/THEM! : If the Cheerleader inside Mee is focused on fixin’ & savin’ somebody else, then there is no time or people to help me fix Mee!  The cheerleader is a victim’s magnet and close friend until she realizes that the victim doesn’t want to be saved. After all, a victim can become dangerously comfy in her home!

PLEASE DON’T MAKE ME CONNECT: This character is fo’sho all about seclusion: ignoring is her game of choice and technology lends a great hand in aiding her.

IS IT GONNA HURT:  I wouldn’t go to the doctor for years because I was afraid it was gonna hurt. This gal loves avoiding anything difficult- from upsetting someone, to physical pain, she avoids that can be or become UNCOMFORTABLE. The idea of rockin’ the boat in any way sets her KNEES shakin’…

PRADA IS MY LIFE! : Oh man, this character creeps around every once in a while, but a few years back she was running the show. Every time I head into the world I meet a few of her– women covering themselves up with designer Band-Aids. It is as if as long as she is dressed well and in expensive gear, no one will have a clue that big gaping wounds are hidden under those labels… She is such a hot mess that one time she bought one single Prada shoe (the match was missing) and left it laying around so anyone that dropped by would see that she was OK, ‘cause if she has Prada, all is good.

HI I’M NOT ENOUGH: I’m always surprised when she shows up, but I’ve learned that she is tied into all the parts of me that I doubted as a child.  Hi I’m Not Enough is self doubt… A benefit of her existence is that she humbles me, however if she lingers for too long and she can tempt me into believing in her.

I’M NOT YOUR RIB: One of my favorite characters, I’m Not Your Rib is anything BUT a victim. She is my inner activist and steps up to the plate no matter who or what stands before her. She uses her voice and she refuses to believe that women are the cause of men’s sin.

I’M FINE WITHOUT YOU: For many years this gal ran my relationship game. She stems from all the losses in my life: the loss of my dad with my parents’ divorce, the death of my mother and the deaths of my best friends. She protects herself by walking away before someone can hurt her and her deepest fear is that she will be seen as she believes she is – neither worthy of friendship nor love… She is the abandoned child in us all.

I DON’T WANNA LOOK AT THAT:  Man, I have to push through when she shows up! When I am determined to investigate or acknowledge a situation that I KNOW is whispering the truth into my ear, she shows up.  She tries hard to go against my gut. For example, if I meet someone and KNOW that we don’t fit, I will still engage in the relationship in order to avoid an awkward situation, even though I might know that further investigation is warranted. When this characters shows up, it usually means I’m fixin’ to be bit in the ass.

BLAH, BLAH, BLAH : THE VICTIM!!!  Nothing is easy for her, she is always stuck, and life is always hard. She is the quintessential self-sabotaging character – an opportunity is not seen in a positive light but rather as a looming struggle…

I DON’T WANNA CHANGE: I wonder when this gal will get a grip and realize that change brings greatness. However, no matter how much I KNOW to be true, when change comes a-knockin’, I cling to the familiar… Fortunately, her benefit lies in the appreciation I gain once I see myself and what I have, an appreciation that makes future changes easier…

I GOT MY EYE ON YOU: I call her my “Soprano” self. SERIOUS mistrust causes this shorty to roll up on the scene with her gangster lean… She shows her face when life feels shaky and unknown. She focuses on those around her, ready to find fault and pick a fight, but the root of her mistrust is actually inside of her. I calm her down by checking in to discover which what part of me is causing the recent scare.

PROCRASTANITA – Fo’sho everyone knows this girl, she is my greatest self sabotaging character – I’m telling you I can have the best plan for the day and the moment I set out to conquer the list she takes over and facebook, painting my nails, talking on the phone or watching You Tube videos seems to fill my time…her greatest skill is telling herself  “Oh, there is always tomorrow.”