Going to church in Nashville

May 3, 2011

The weather here in the south has been wild for weeks, sweet home Alabama and the horrible tornado that struck there was devastating to all of us, as we were once again reminded that life changes in an instant.  We felt this storm as it passed over us and had the temperature not dropped it could have hit here.  That very day as it was spankin’ Alabama Rusty our foreman at the cattle company was moving cows to higher ground  and the treatment center was moving folks from the mens house as the water was rising on the Piney River.  We were all tense as it is a year ago this week that Nashville suffered the great flood and we like many others lost much property including our home and seven other buildings, 400 goats, barns, fencing, cows and countless amounts of ranching equipment.  We’ve learned a  lot and mainly to trust the process and to have faith the the right path will be revealed.  I personally changed as a result of so much loss.  Nashville inspired me as folks pulled themselves up by the boot straps and rebuilt.  I fell in love and like a women in love I found my way to the heart of this city via it’s stomach.  Maybe that is the purpose of natural disasters, to make us stop appreciate the small things and connect as a community.  Just maybe tragedy is life’s way of showing us that we have lost relationship with one another and the simple aspects of life.

Mercury went direct last week and wow did life fly forward (as mercury retrograde is all about recycling through our past). I’ve had my seat belt on ’cause fo’sho my M.T.P. has turned into a time machine.  I’m not certain if it’s just me, but each day seems to zoom away.  I’m very happy to say that I’ve been enjoying myself and partaking in all that Nashville has to offer, from the Lady Gaga concert – yep, I went and yep I loved it – well what I loved is how thought provoking the experience was.  In the 1970′s Bette Midler rolled on the scene encouraging folks to embrace their outrageous selves, my momma loved her, therefore Bette Midler was a part of my childhood.  Madonna busted out in the 80′s & ’90′s pushing the sexual envelope, placing societal taboo’s on the table.  Now we have Lady Gaga, honestly I’d listened to her music and popped around in my seat cruising down the road to her tunes but I really had no idea what she was about other than funky outfits and giving us something to look at other than the perfectly clad mannequins that typically grace the red carpet ceremonies.  What I loved about her concert besides the fact that this little sista’ can sing; is that she has a very clear and direct message – be you, you were born this way, you are perfect as you are, god and Jesus love us all. There is room in heaven for you, regardless of what society says.  This is a big deal here in this deeply Southern city where “Jesus lovers” attempted to block access to the concert by shouting such “Christian” things like,  “You women are sluts, and Jesus HATES gays.  There is no room for you Heathens in Heaven.”  Gaga’s concert was a beautiful reaction to this unattractive behavior.  I was told as a child that Jesus loved and walked with those that society rejected, I always believed that he loved all humans and that hate was not apart of his language.  Anyways, I was intrigued by how many of us need to hear these words that we are good enough.  Even me, Ms.Know It All, have moments of, “Really, am I OK? Am I good enough?

The icing on the cake was The Band Perry sitting down alongside of us, as I was in a private sweet the guest of a dear friend who happens to work for Sony Music.  If y’all remember Isabella sang The Band Perry’s hit If I Die Young at Corinthian Baptist Church and her talent show.  They were so kind to send me home with a note for Isabella and offering up plenty of conversation, as they had seen the video from Corinthian Baptist Church of Isabella singing and loved it.

Earth day was another good time here in Nashville, this city is so do-able, meaning that connecting and participating is super easy.  We joined a handful of families from Bella’s school and spread our blankets out to listen to all the good music that Nashville over flows with, plus I made my way through the agricultural booths and food advocates.  My favorite was meeting The Barefoot Farmer, Jeff Poppen, a biodynamic farming guru!

The Barefoot Farmer & Mee

Easter was another grand day as Mary Alice arrived early in the morning and the girls had an egg hunt with our neighbors and another family from Bella’s school.  I went to mass but it was so crowded with the over flow of “Holiday Catholics” like myself that I spent most of mass sitting outside on face book.

The following week Abi and I headed downtown to meet with folks at the health department.  We applied for a mini-grant a few months back and it looks like we are in the running.  What I appreciated the most was that the women we met with really see the value of the Noble Food Makeover; it is a sustainable approach – gardens, farmers market, cooking – community – all under one roof.  I also have come to a total understanding – I’m not an activist, I’m not a “food advocate” I’m just a lady sharing what I know and it’s not all about food, it’s about choices.  The food is the gravy, ‘cause only once we’ve taken back our power, seen ourselves, truly understand that we are creating our own outcomes can we organize ourselves with healthy food choices.  I don’t want to create programs that are dependent on grants, that goes against my entire personal deal – I want to create programs that are dependent on the individuals and the community that they belong too.  The Noble Food Makeover is not a charity event, and what I do when I cook at Corinthian is all about my personal honor and the ability to participate and share.  Yes there are items needed to be donated but it’s once again more about sharing.

Abi and I left the health department completely moved by our meeting, Abi has been working diligently on the grant and now I’m finishing it up.  If we get some money it will be to build the gardens, buy the food and offer a stipend to members of the congregation and the city of Nashville that want to really learn to cook and recreate Noble Food Makeovers all over the city.

Just left the Health Department-feeling good!

Friday was a big one in this here house, Isabella made her 1st Communion in the Catholic Church – she was so beautiful and proud.  Our house was a buzz and so was the M.T.P as we all piled in – my neighbor, her three little girls, Lola, Ana (Lee’s daughter), Abi, Mary Alice and myself – fo’sho we looked like a crew of sister wives with Lee holding the baby.  One of the moms later asked, “Wow all of your sisters showed up?” I giggled,” No, we aren’t related.” Maybe ‘cause we all refer to lee as big daddy this adds fuel to the fire? I am so irreverent.   I’d received a letter from the school apologizing for the way in which they handled the “punching” situation a few weeks back.  I quickly found the principal and told him how much I appreciated the letter, that’s the thing about Nashville and the south – there is still a sense of etiquette and grace that is applied to every day living.  What I wanted to explain to the Principal is that I’m am sorry if I seemed upset by the situation but that I love deeply, I care deeply, I feel deeply and I provide as a mother from a very deep place.

That night I finally went to the Bluebird Café to listen to songwriters in the round. The Bluebird Café is a local legend; songwriters fill the stage and share the tales that led to the songs.  Everyone sits quietly listening; again I reveled at all of the talent that this southern city holds within its arms.

My D.F.F. (Dear family friend) rolled down from Ohio, she had a follow up visit with Dr. Sheng and she wanted to help me out with an up and coming Noble Food Makeover  event. She brought with her a friend Cantrell who was way game when it came to supporting the Noble Food Makeover.  The good news before I go any further is that my D.F.F is feeling way better and she has totally taken her power back in the kitchen – yep she is doin’ it y’all preparing meals that heal fo’herself and her entire family has rallied and are doing the same.

Saturday was The Celebration of Health for the Nashville Public Schools, this event was held at Carter Lawrence School on 12th Ave and Edge hill. Mary Alice, Lee, my girls, D.F.F. and Cantrell all loaded up in the M.T.P once again for a day of participation.  We served up healthy blueberry smoothies packed with sea veggies, kale and Bee Pollen (local helps with outdoor allergies).  The Vita Mix was rockin’ and of course we spent the day laughing. (click here to watch video from the days events)

Celebration Of Health - Nashville Public Schools

Celebration Of Health - Nashville Public Schools

The grand finale was an evening out, The Ryman Auditorium - the original home of the grand old opry.  I grew up hearing about the Ryman my grandparents were big country music fans, Loretta Lynn is one of my all time favorites and Patsy Cline reminds me of my momma – as she loved to play her records.  I knew this joint was gonna be cool but what I didn’t know is that it was all about going to church.  Lee and I entered the main room and I caught my breath – TIME washed over me, I could feel all that had been felt over the years – both from the stage and from the audiences; the energy of dreams coming true.  We walked to our pew – ‘cause the Ryman is called the mother church and set up originally so.  Tom Jones stepped on stage and my foot got to tapping.  I didn’t know just how many of his songs I knew but let me tell you this dude is 70 years old and still getting down.  His band was fantastic – I could have done with out the flinging of underwear as I’m such a germ freak but I appreciated 70 year old women throwing ‘em up there – again I heard Lady Gaga’s voice as she said “let’s go to church Nashville.”  Upon my arrival 2.5 years ago I had no idea that I would have such a soulful experience on so many different levels.  Who knew my spirit was gonna go to church and revel in it.

 

 


 

 

Her hair ain’t my hair…we are individuals.

August 26, 2010

Just before going to Flow-ida Bella decided she wanted to cut her hair into a pixie.  I love the Mia Farrow look, however I know first hand that once the novelty and newness of short hair wears off one misses their ponytail.  I had a moment in the salon, as I was wanting to convince her to just go for a bob, I saw how this was about her image of herself, a positive one, one that wasn’t about what other people thought when they looked at her but what she thinks of herself when she see’s her own refection.  My heart filled up as I saw that my guidance and love has aided in the creation of this elegant and gamine creature.

Bella was determined and chop away went her mane and off to locks of love it traveled.

What emerged from underneath all that hair was Bella – really and truly she has come out – funnier, more confident as she knows how brave she is.  She is turning 8 next week, cutting her hair is  an example of the separation from mother and child that occurs in the seventh year as I wrote about last August. (http://princessknowitall.com/2009/08/pkia-in-spanish/),

I’m loving her new school; walking her inside every morning to be greeted by her homeroom teacher is a giant treat!  I have to control myself from not turning into my Chihuahua self every time someone takes the time to actually say hello!

I’m convinced that her past “wanna be groovy Montessori” school doesn’t have a clue when it comes to educating kids – yes they give them social and emotional support in the class room – however little people want to know that their families are connected to their educational process.  Life is going to take them in their own direction soon enough, I’m not down with rushing it.  To prove a point the “Wanna Be Groovy Montessori” totally fell short in math – I pushed ‘em as much as I could to work with her and their response was she is fine, since their thoughts on the classroom being separate from home I was unable to support her as to the fact that we didn’t have a CLUE what she was learning.  I’d met a bunch a families while at the “Wanna Be Groovy School” that had removed their children and all of them had told me to be aware that math and science was where their children lacked once they began traditional programs.

Her first week in traditional Catholic real school, showed how little she did learn – math wise that is.  However in the reading department she is a full grade level ahead – DANG – I’m glad I changed schools!

No sweat, ‘cause every morning her teacher gives me guidance in what to do on my part  – I’ve decided I’m OLD SCHOOL – shawty, and grooviness aint’ groovy when it’s really about the image of the adminstrators and the personal desire of the parents and what they think is “cool” or “progressive”. It would be wonderful if there were a school that was actually in balance – traditional yet expansive, green, supportive and actually academic…Well I’m hoping that between Lee and I, our family of friends and loved ones – we can give Bella the emotional support, the expansive life perspective and school can teach her academics.

With all of this said, her new school is on it, and already in just a few short weeks Bella has caught up and is moving forward, in fact yesterday she came to my office after school to do her homework  whipped through her math page getting every item correct!   This is a huge perk, I’m able to leave work walk around the corner and pick her up!!!!   Talk about shifting from NOT having a window into her academic world to now being able to stand at my window in the Convent and see her on the playground!  Life has really shifted here in Nashville, proving again the lack of chaos.

I’d written how I was worried about Lola’s bday and whom we’d spend the day with since her list of invites included only west coast folks.  Jane Ellen to the rescue, her little girl Bailey shares Lola’s bday and Bella and Spencer her son not only have the same bday but were also born in the same hospital at the same time on the same exact day! We hooked up our newly renovated (since the floods) cookhouse out on the ranch and threw them girls a real down home fiesta!

Maryalice, Jane Ellen’s crew, Baileys friends and Crystal and her girls (more of our ranch friends) came along and all of us spent the day playing in the river, pulling out Lee’s stand up paddle board and blow up rafts.  I was  of course on snake alert – Jane Ellen said that if I were an animal I’d be a GOOSE – yelling out every time I saw something sketchy!

We spent the evening on the screened porch watching the sky shift colors; I miss having such a big sky on a daily basis.  Rusty our Cattle company foreman filled my ears with truthful funny tales and MA and I rode home marveling at a Ranch Life’s Simple World…

Thanks Jane Ellen, MA, Rusty, & Crystal for showing up for us, reminding me of the simple truths.

The other day I felt full, tired, excited and overwhelmed, swollen and ready to pop – just like I did 8 years ago today.  I was 9 months pregnant and dang was I ready to get that baby out.  I was so frightened of what was to come, and yet thrilled to meet my creation, I remember climbing in the back of our Yukon, 4am and an hours drive into town from the Ranch.  Listening to Buena Vista Social club and wanting to turn back around, however knowing the only way through it was forward.

Ironically, I’m feeling the same way with Princess Know It All.  I’m editing one of my books and pushing through, feeling this crazy need to get it out, bring it into the world and move to the next level of experience all along trusting the NOT KNOWING that awaits me.  I’m asking the same questions what will it look like, will it have all it’s fingers and toes, hoping it doesn’t have an extra chromosome, ’cause dang there is no amniocentesis and the one question no momma wants to admit that she asks herself – Will I like it and of course what will people think of it. 

I stepped away from my office the other day and returned 24 hours later, forward moving, deep breathing and pulling on that thread in my palm.

Isabella is 8 today and Lola is 4, they are now old enough that I can really take care of a new baby, so here I go giving birth to an aspect of my imagination.   Hopefully this time without all the chaos that comes with first time motherhood.

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